How fear stops you from being YOU

As International Woman’s month comes to a close, we must continue to celebrate courageous woman around the world – encouraging and inspiring the new generation of women to believe they can achieve bigger and better things every day.

With this being said, we must remember the pioneers that got us to this point. An infamous example would have to be Florence Nightingale; known as the founder of modern nursing.

Florence Nightingale

As the pandemic continues to be fought, I thought I’d learn about one of England’s iconic trailblazers. Nightingale, although being born into to a British upper-class family, her parents disapproved of nursing as her chosen profession. They felt someone of her stature should not take on such a career. This could have gone two ways; Nightingale could have let other people dictate her future, instilling fear and doubt – or – persevere with her passion.

 “How very little can be done under the spirit of fear” –Florence Nightingale

 Of course, this did not stop determined Nightingale as of the age of 30; she fulfilled her career goal, working in a variety of hospitals in the 1850s. Nightingale successfully went on to organise and lead the group of nurses that helped fallen British soldiers in the Crimean War. Through determination and diligence, the death rate was reduced by two thirds. This gained her a reward from Queen Victoria herself. Nightingale used this reward to create St. Thomas’ Hospital and a training school for aspiring nurses.

Florence Nightingale centre

We are so fortunate to have had such a strong example of leadership and courage – demonstrating that trying to achieve and taking action is better than not trying at all. Nightingale became the women she was destined to be through trial and error, persistence and tenacity. If it were not for her passion and determination to introduce control, sanitation and structure, the modern nursing world may not have been be the success it is today. Therefore, if Nightingale let fear dictate her life she would have never become the iconic woman she is remembered for today.

So remember: Fear is an obstacle you cannot go; over, past or under. Fear must be faced head on to get through the barriers of restraint so that it may no longer rule your actions.

Our advice would be to do one thing that scares you everyday. With the lockdown restrictions being lifted we now have more freedom to do , so what’s stopping you?

Now, swimming with sharks scares me for sure but regrettably I can’t jet off to the Bahamas every afternoon (thanks COVID 19). Instead focus on the little things that you may avoid day to day and build from there. For example; saying hi to a stranger, catching spiders, driving long distances, using sharp knives, walking over a tall bridge. In time these things will be a part of your routine and will enable you to strive for bigger aims like chasing your career goals and becoming the best you, you can be.

“Live your life while you have it. Life is a splendid gift. But to live your life, you must discipline it.” Florence Nightingale

Our mission is to empower 1000 women to ‘climb their mountain’ so that they break down their barriers and reclaim their power. Join us. For more details about how we can help you to ‘climb your mountain’ – check out our free events here

How Michelle Obama Became

There is the well-known saying – no pain, no gain.

Do you ever feel like the odds are stacked against you? Well in Michelle Obamas case, this was true. Growing up an African American in the 60’s in a small home in Chicago provided to be her first hurdle of many. With her father falling very ill, suffering with Multiple Sclerosis, this pushed Michelle to be a good, ambitious student.

While studying sociology at Princeton University, Michelle then realised “that everyday drain of being in a deep minority.” Living during a time when schools were white male dominated and the difficulty of standing out was prevalent.

If there is no struggle, there is no progress” – Frederick Douglass

Now; Michelle Obama is a lawyer, writer and the wife of former U.S. President Barack Obama. Prior to her role as first lady, she was a lawyer, Chicago city administrator and community-outreach worker. But how did she get there?

Michelle rose to success through determination and persistence, not letting deterrents such as lack of opportunities affect her and focusing on thriving possibilities and the potential for greatness. Michelle was always captivated with helping others and found that her true calling is working with people to serve their communities. Therefore, when Michelle became the First Lady of The United States she found herself in a position of power and influence.

Now travelling overseas for meetings with officials – Michelle has an epiphany – after seeing that the same girls from ethnic minorities were from uncertain backgrounds – Michelle realised she can open new doors as the First Lady of the United States. This gave her the inspiration to start initiatives such as: Let’s Move! / Reach Higher / Let Girls Learn and Joining Forces; with the aim to bring more opportunities and prospects to children all over the world.

Michelle Obama embraces Nariah, a Philadelphia High School Student at surprise visit to the African American Museum.

If you want to learn more about Michelle Obamas initiatives click here: https://obamawhitehouse.archives.gov/administration/first-lady-michelle-obama

On top of this Michelle is a mother of two and an author. Releasing her memoir “Becoming” was a turning point I think for many of us. Michelle shared deeply personal experiences, her roots, how she found her voice and her time in The White House.

This reflected on work-life, marital and motherly duties and being the first African American First Lady of the United States of America. Undoubtedly helping women overcome their barriers, reaching out to help women figure out how to manage their highs and lows. There are 3 sections – Becoming Me, Becoming Us and Becoming More – Encouraging us to navigate life attentively to make the best from our hardships and to never stop growing.

Michelle Obama’s Memoir – Becoming

It’s important for you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantages.” – Michelle Obama

The moral is, try not to ever be deterred. Never stop growing and be the change you want to see in the world – make the most of what you have been blessed with; your wonderful self. One woman doing something positive can lead to 100 woman being impacted, this can lead to 1 million possibilities in which we can continue to achieve great things.

Our mission is to empower 1000 women to ‘climb their mountain’ so that they break down their barriers and reclaim their power. Join us – For more details about how we can help you to ‘climb your mountain’ – check out our free events here.

#ChooseToChallege The World

It is Woman’s History month and this year the theme is #ChooseToChallenge. Throughout history, women have challenged all types of stigma around what we can and cannot do; opening the flood gates for the next generation of women to accomplish a million possibilities. Women have stepped out of the shadow of the man and continue to shine brightly all over the world.

Need some inspiration for how we can celebrate Women’s History Month? Look through our list or click here: https://yourdream.liveyourdream.org/2021/03/15-ways-to-celebrate-womens-history-month/

Our list:

*Follow a recognised feminist online to keep up on current content

*Get familiar with current women’s issues i.e. the pink tax

*Watch films and TV shows directed and produced by women

*Donate to charities that aid women causes

*Amplify the women in your life – encourage them to achieve their best!

Frida Kahlo – Mexican Painter

During the 1900’s the art world was booming.  You would have heard of Pablo Picasso and Salvador Dali as even then they were household names – famous for creating outlandish works using their emotions to communicate. During this time women still could not: vote, smoke in public, get divorced, join the military or even wear trousers, let alone have an art career. Meanwhile though, Frida Kahlo was creating artwork after artwork as a result of an unfortunate tram accident, leaving her bedbound. This tragedy left Kahlo with a deep sense of agony and Kahlo needed to tell her story. Through practice and determination Kahlo created many self-portraits expressing her pain; exploring themes of loss, death and selfhood. These themes were already explored by male artists but never before had a woman dissected the emotion and stigma around expressing one’s self.

“Feet, what do I want them for if I have wings to fly?’ – Frida Kahlo

Before Kahlo, women artists were seen as hysterical and condemned insane and men artists as ‘melancholy’. This all slowly unravelled when Kahlo defied gender stereotypes by proudly wearing her facial hair, smoking in public, wearing a suit for a family portrait and having infamous affairs with men and women. Proving that terms should not be thought of as gendered and challenging the idea of what it means to be a woman. Kahlo was unapologetically herself, proving to be a role model of rebelliousness and confidence.

Family Portrait 1924 – Frida Kahlo (centre) aged 17

Kahlo, although bedbound, did not let her illness stop her from being herself. Today Kahlo is up there with the greats, being recognised for dismissing societies standards of what women should and should not be, being the face of trauma support and for discussing the complex aspects of female identity. Kahlo liberated women to challenge what they felt they could do; permitting freedom for women many years to come.

If you want to find out more about the gender defying, feminist icon Frida Kahlo click here – https://www.firstpost.com/living/frida-kahlo-femininity-and-feminism-why-the-painter-is-an-icon-for-so-many-women-3782365.html

Our mission is to empower 1000 women to ‘climb their mountain’ so that they break down their barriers and reclaim their power. Join us. For more details about how we can help you to ‘climb your mountain’ – check out our free events here.

Women Breaking Down Barriers

Women are and have always been strong. So why has it taken so long for the world to recognise that? Thanks to some of the women on this list; women are becoming more recognised around the world for their contributions to society and devotion to their passions. A recent example of this would be New Zealand’s Prime Minister – Jacinda Ardern. Arden has been recognised for the decisiveness, rapidity and effectiveness of the response to COVID 19, as well as the compassionate communication of fact-based public health information. Everywhere you look around you women are doing amazing things; the trick is to recognise it.

Here’s our list of accomplished women:

*Malala Yousafzai
*Maya Angelou
*Frida Kahlo
*Michelle Obama
*Florence Nightingale
*Rosa Parks
*Jane Austin
*Amelia Earheart

Another example of a recognised, accomplished woman would be Malala Yousafzai. Malala is a powerhouse for female education and equality and this passion unfortunately resulted in an attempt on her life – amazingly, Malala not only survived but continued to stand up for female education. Her determination and passion for life demand and advocate for female education has no doubt positively impacted the world. For example: more children now having access to free education and the ability to complete a full course of primary schooling and much more. This gained Malala a Nobel Peace Prize at the age of 17 and universal recognition.  

One child, one teacher, one book, one pen can change the world.” – Malala Yousafzai

Similarly, Maya Angelou used her personal domestic adverse experiences to make a tremendous difference within literature and modern society. Angelou is known as an accomplished author, poet, memoirist and civil rights activist. Angelou was known to never be hesitant to speak her mind, passionately defending the rights of women, young people and the ignored. This passion and determination made Angelou a catalyst during the civil rights movement as she effortlessly traversed the worlds of literature and activism.

So what do these women have in common other than greatness? Adversity and breaking down barriers. These extraordinary women rose above their experiences and didn’t let it dictate who they are. Instead, they used it as a source of motivation to help others and accomplish brilliant unforgettable achievements recognised universally. The moral is; everyone’s got their mountains, it is how you choose to climb it that matters. We all have our stories and hurdles, the key is to stay positive and keep focus towards your goals. These women stood their ground in the face of adversity and exceled for what they believed in whist motivating others and you can too.

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou

Our mission is to empower 1000 women to ‘climb their mountain’ so that they break down their barriers and reclaim their power. Join us. For more details about how we can help you to ‘climb your mountain’, check out our free events here.

#TWLMLBC June 2020

We gathered on 20th June 2020 for The Women Like Me Luton & Beds Conference and participants described it as:

Phyllisha

‘…your event was soooooo great I am a woman empowered…You are inspiring and all the ladies came with insight, empowering words to uplift and strengthen…’

Marie-Louise

‘…I was really pleased I attended the conference yesterday it brings hope and inspiration when we need to be reminded x’

Samara

‘It was amazing. Absolutely incredible’

Toni watched the replay and said

‘It was so interesting to see confident, outgoing women sharing their back stories. I found it enlightening and I found your story [Jasmine] very moving,’

  • Over 6 hours
  • 8 women sharing
  • Empowering, Engaging and Inspiring

The theme was ‘From Feeling Fear to Feeling Free’. It was held on Zoom which allowed the magic to be captured in such a beautiful way, from the comfort of our own homes.

Fear affects each of us in different ways, nevertheless what unites us is that we have all felt fear. Though fear may have held us captive, we wanted to be free. Freedom was being reclaimed. And we were listening to the stories of women who had and who were doing just that. You too can listen to these empowering stories by purchasing access to the #Replay. Click below to purchase immediate access. Plus receive a bonus, The Women Like Me Conference PDF Notebook will be emailed to you separately.

A huge thanks goes out to the amazing #TWLMLBC Speaker Line Up of The Women Like Me L&B Conference 2020. They were each outstanding in their own right and shared so generously. Particular thanks goes to Haneefah Muhammed who hosted the event so humorously and brilliantly. The speakers were:

*Daniella Blechner
*Danielle Bridge
*Debbie Gilbert
*Haneefah Muhammad
*Hasina Rahman
*Jasmine Mbye
*Katrina Sargent
*Samara Barnett

Check out the pics and bios, along with contact details of these amazing speakers here.

It was after this event that Jasmine Mbye, the organiser, realised exactly what this conference is all about…It’s revealing the hidden stories that make us who we are to empower women so they can keep on moving.

It was the start of our mission at The Like Me CIC to empower 1000 women.

Look at the beautiful faces of each woman above. For most of us there we shared our stories of child abuse, divorce, bullying, domestic abuse and rejection and how we are or have overcome. We listened to speaking, song and poetry. We laughed, we cried, we all shared to empower so we could overcome fear.

Below are a some screenshots of the event.

Can you tell it was great? Maybe you weren’t able to join us on the 20th of June, yet you want to move from ‘Feeling Fear to Feeling Free’? You want to be empowered and inspired? Want to find out about the challenges we’ve overcome and are overcoming? Become part of our 1000 empowered women.

Watch the replay by purchasing below to gain immediate access.

  • Watch over 6 hours at your convenience
  • Be empowered and inspired by these amazing women’s stories
  • Plus receive a bonus PDF The Women Like Me Luton & Beds Conference Notebook
The Women Like Me Conference #Replay

 

We gathered on 20th June 2020 for The Women Like Me Luton & Beds Conference and participants described it as:

Phyllisha

‘…your event was soooooo great I am a woman empowered…You are inspiring and all the ladies came with insight, empowering words to uplift and strengthen…’

 

Marie-Louise

‘…I was really pleased I attended the conference yesterday it brings hope and inspiration when we need to be reminded x’

 

Samara

‘It was amazing. Absolutely incredible’

 

Toni watched the replay and said

‘It was so interesting to see confident, outgoing women sharing their back stories. I found it enlightening and I found your story [Jasmine] very moving,’

 

  • Over 6 hours
  • 8 women sharing
  • Empowering, Engaging and Inspiring

 

Celebrate International Women’s Day and Women’s History Month with this not-to-be-missed conference. Buy now to listen to the empowering stories shared by each woman.  The theme is ‘From Feeling Fear to Feeling Free’. The magic was captured in such a beautiful way, from the comfort of our own homes. Watch the #replay and we’ll bring the magic; the emotion, the authenticity and the vulnerability to yours. 

Click below to purchase immediate access. Plus receive a bonus, The Women Like Me Conference PDF Notebook, which will be emailed to you separately.

£9.00

If you’re an organisation and want to share access with multiple women, then complete the form below and we’ll get in touch.

Loving Enough to Leave

It’s ages since I’ve written a blog. However, after The Women Like Me Luton & Beds Conference I’ve re-committed myself to sharing from the heart. My major learning of late is love isn’t always about being there through thick and thin. Sometimes love requires you to leave.

So Why is Leaving Loving?

Firstly, leaving my relationship meant I remembered to love me. It meant I had finally acknowledged that I and my feelings mattered. It meant I had accepted my relationship was toxic and abusive, deciding to stand up for myself and my happiness. For a long time I’d been surviving and felt like I was slowly dying inside. I lost connection with myself so didn’t realised how anxious I’d become or that I was becoming depressed. Losing the fight needed for my hopes and dreams to become a reality. Slipping into a state of existence, numbed existence, where I just go through the motions. Leaving meant loving myself so I could stop trying to be okay and just start being again.

Another reason why leaving was an act of love is because it meant my daughter would be able to grow up with a mum who breathed. What I mean by that is a mum who was present, who lived in the moment, who felt. Instead of a mum struggling, falling into depression and anxiety and simply trying to survive. My example would be one that she could follow in life and relationships. As I would learn how to set and uphold appropriate boundaries including being treated with respect and love. Leaving was love as my daughter would now be in a home environment in which she would feel safe because I felt safe.

The last reason why leaving was loving is because I didn’t stop loving my partner. I just stopped hoping and wishing he would change. I recognised change was something he had to want for himself but I didn’t have to suffer while he figured that out. I realised leaving would give him the chance to see just how damaging his behaviour had been. A chance to reflect and see ‘it wasn’t that bad’ was a lie. I knew, however, change might never come and whether it did or didn’t wasn’t on me. I left that to him and God. Leaving was the loving slap that might awaken him and I wasn’t looking to benefit from it. I wasn’t going to look back.

Leaving meant my life took unexpected turns that VERY few understood. It meant my life sunk to depths I never imagined. Here I was a professional, a business women in refuge. On top of that I wasn’t 100% sure that I was doing the right thing. Yet leaving meant I was free. Free to learn and free love again. Starting with myself.

There’s a saying, if you love something set it free and if it’s yours it’ll come back to you. Love yourself, set yourself free and you’ll come back to you. I’m here to tell the tale. And I’m breathing with a smile on my face. There’s life after abuse. You can recover. And you can learn to love yourself again.

All the best

Jasmine ??

Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Director of The Like Me CIC.

Jasmine is determined to make a positive difference to females in Luton and Bedfordshire. Primarily through events, training and in future a magazine. Jasmine shares her story to empower and encourage others. Jasmine’s authenticity comes from her belief that when she lets her light shine, others are encouraged to do the same.